Fantasy JOI

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Have you heard or been doing fantasy JOI? Well, if you have, good for you and if not, it’s your lucky day to understand what it’s all about.

Whenever Mark and I make love, he often asks me questions that are off, like, “Who fucked you today?” He murmurs these weird questions in a low, husky tone to my ears.

Did you enjoy it?

Would you tell me about it?

Tell me who made you wet?

In the beginning, I found these questions unsettling and i wondered if this was the beginning of the end of our relationship. I couldn’t understand why he got so turned on by imagining me with someone else. Not that I understand it today, but I’ve learned to enjoy the good out of it even though it feels bizarre and sometimes a little disrespectful. 

Who gets off on the idea of their girlfriend being with another man? If that’s what it takes to make my man happy, I had to find a way to deal with it, and curiosity won. 

One evening, I mustered the courage to ask him why he got off on such weird vibes. I expected an awkward conversation or a defensive response, but I got an eye-opening revelation. Mark had a vivid imagination and a deep love for sexual fantasy. He explained that his questions weren’t about mistrust or jealousy – they were his way of exploring desire, pushing boundaries, and igniting a sexual fire between us.

As weird as it was in the initial stages, getting comfortable with the idea of servicing another dick was also a mystery I wished to explore. I embraced the idea, and that’s how I learned about and acted on sexual fantasy! They’re just active thoughts aimed at bringing more pleasure and fun during intimacy and, most likely, improving our relationship. 

By understanding sexual fantasy, we were on the same page, and our sex life turned from boring to explosive. 

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Here’s our first and most captivating fantasy for us.  

We part ways in the morning, and everyone heads to work until the evening when I get home, only to find his chest naked with a towel wrapped around him. 

The moment I walked in, he got up, took away everything I had, then hugged me tightly and led me to the shower, and I knew something huge was about to happen. 

He bathes me while asking, why did you have to do that? Of course, I know where this is heading, but I give him the puppy eye look he loves. As he cleans my body, he slowly advances to my chest, touching one boob gently while moving his fingertips around it. I’m aroused, but I keep looking at him with a straight eye without saying a word. Slowly, he drops one hand to my thighs, and my legs suddenly part ways…

Mark: Is that what you do? Open your legs because someone has their hands on your thigh? 

Mhhhhhh, I nod in agreement. 

Mark: You have been a bad girl, and I’m unhappy.

I shrug my shoulders but don’t utter a word.

He gets me a towel and stretches his hand to help me get out.

Once I stand, Mark wraps me with the towel and then sweeps me with his hands straight to the bedroom. On our way, I manage to reach his lips and give him a wet kiss, which he stops for a few seconds to reciprocate. 

Mark: oh, girl, you’re something, but that kiss can’t clear everything. 

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He pushes me to the bed, and by this time, his towel has dropped from his waist, and all I can see is his hard manhood nodding up and down. Wait! Was that a drop of something from the dick? Oh my! He must be so horny to drop precum. That excites me, and I stare at it when Mark catches my wide eyes. He wiggles his ass a little, increasing the frequent movements slowly. My mind is blank, and I continue to stare while stretching my hand, calling him to bed. Unknowingly, my fingers are on my honeypot, rubbing my clit. 

I’m so wet, honey. Can you please come to bed? 

Mark: Who permitted you to touch my cookie? Is that how he was touching you? 

Mmmmmmmmh..…I answer while nodding. Mark bends over to kiss me, and he’s mumbling words I can’t understand, but I know he’s filled with passion. He quickly flips me, and I’m on top of him. I quickly reach for his manhood and use it to rub my pussy, from the clit down to the crack. We are moaning in pleasure when he suddenly holds my hand while staring straight into my eyes. I stop to look at him in disappointment.  

Mark: If you want that to continue, you must narrate how you got fucked today! And don’t leave out any details.

I start to explain myself as Mark fixates his eyes on me…

Usher called to say hi; we had a long chat catching up until he invited me for lunch. Since I had no commitments today, I gave in. Little did I know it was a trap. I acted like I was crying, and he looked at me like, “My love, you enjoyed it, so stop pretending.” (He never uttered these words, but I read his mind.)  

After leaving home, Usher called to tell me he was cooking and that I should head to his house. Somehow, I got excited and started my journey to his house. Although Mark’s house is a 20-minute drive, it felt like forever.

All I was thinking was how the lunch would turn out. However, something in my mind told me it would be more than just food. I pulled into his driveway and knocked on his door, but it was open! For a minute, I was confused. Did someone break in? As I tiptoed into the house, someone grabbed me and covered my mouth. I struggled to get free, but it was impossible. 

Whoever was holding me pressed me too hard to his body; his hot breath on my neck made it more difficult for me to pull away, not to mention his manhood pressing on my bum.

Usher, I managed to call his name, and he responded with a mmmmmmh. I was opening my mouth to say something, but I was covered with a deep, passionate kiss. And that’s how it all began. He pinned me to the wall, kissing me all over with his hands, fondling my breasts, then slowly moving them down to my thighs. Oh my, I couldn’t hold back my feelings anymore. I opened my thighs to let him in.

Oh! You bitch…your pussy is dripping wet. He slowly puts his hand in between my legs, covering my pussy fully.  I try grinding on his hand momentarily, but he stops me. Mark directs me to the couch, lays me down gently, then opens my legs and buries his head between my legs, licking my pussy.  

As I narrate the entire story, Mark repeats the same actions on me. It feels hotter and sexier. Please fill me with your dick, darling. I can’t wait anymore. 

Shut up and tell me everything that happened. 

That’s what happened. I begged for his dick, and he didn’t make me wait. He was inside the moment I asked for it. 

Mark turns me over and slowly thrusts his dick inside me, sending pleasure all over my body.

What did you call him? …. 

He asks; I call him daddy. Call me the same.

I pull him close and then whisper in his ears. Please, Daddy, fuck me hard, make me cum till I can’t cum no more. 

Today will be the day you know I can fuck you better than anyone out there. As Mark moves in and out of my pussy, our movements are easy, and I’m holding him tight as I wiggle my ass to maximize pleasure. 

Yes, bitch, move it. Will you fuck that silly man again? No daddy. No one will ever hit your honeypot. You’ll always be the one who gives me pleasure. 

And what will you do when I’m away? Nothing daddy. My vibrator and fingers will do it for me. As I answer, I feel so much excitement, and I know I’m about to cum. Daddy, I’m about to cum…

Don’t you dare? Mark warned me, and I knew he meant it cause he withdrew and turned me over to face him. All the movement slows down, and we kiss passionately. Then he whispers into my ears, let’s do this together, honey. I want us to cum together. At this time, he holds me close as he puts his back into my pussy. Once inside, Mark relaxes, and as he begins to move in and out slowly, I slide to his right side and then get on top of him.

Riding him gives him more pleasure, so we both will explode in joy. I begin to wiggle my waist as my ass moves in a circular motion, and I see Mark struggling to catch his breath. That doesn’t deter me, and I remove one of my hands from his chest, take him and place it on my tits. Mark gets me and quickly starts to play with my breast. I’m pushing my ass up and down round, any motion that brings pleasure, when all of a sudden, Mark puts one of my boobs in his mouth and then places his hands on my ass, directing me to move up and down. 

Come on, baby fuck my brains out. He says gently amid heavy breathing. I know where we’re heading, and I increase the motion. My body starts to shake from my back down to my thighs. Daddy, I’m about to cum. Me too, honey. Keep going. All of a sudden, my pussy muscles get tight, and I can feel the warmth and joy that only cums when entering the climaxing moment. Mark is also slow and mumbling words I can’t fathom. 

The movement slows down, and I fall on his chest. Mark goes first. Honey, that was super hot. You crippled me with pleasure. He then pushes me to his side while holding me, but my head remains on his chest. 

He looks down at me and lifts my chin to ensure I’m looking into his eyes. Honey, I hope I didn’t make you feel lesser or disrespected. No love. I like it that way.

But that was just fun, right? I’m the only guy: no Usher, no one else.

Common darling. It was all fun. I get everything I need right here. I hold his soft dick as he kisses my forehead and slowly drifts to sleep.  

Do you have sexual fantasies? 

Do you talk or act them out with your partner? 

I would love to hear all about your fantasies, no matter how freaky they are. 

Cheers.

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The quest of seeking sexual pleasure is undeniable, yet it’s a topic most people shy from especially anal sex. Whether you’re chasing it alone or with a partner, it’s a pivotal point in your intimate life. There are many ways to get orgasms, and one of them is s anal sex which many people don’t accept. So, are you interested or having anal sex? 

Anal sex isn’t a popular topic in any discussion, which is influenced by social, cultural, and health-related factors. Although anal sex is common in both heterosexual and homosexual relationships, conversations on the subject often face stigma and misconceptions. However, whether you enjoy these back shots or not, there’s concern about the potential link between anal sex and cancer. 

In this article, we aim to look into the connection between anal sex and cancer risk, particularly regarding the Human Papillomavirus Virus (HPV). It’s a sexually transmitted infection linked to the development of various cancers: anal and cervical cancer. 

Thus, you’re in luck as we help you understand how anal sex may facilitate HPV transmission and cancer risk. As they say, information is power as it improves public health awareness, and now you join the elite group equipped with knowledge. 

Understanding the Relation Between Anal Sex and Anal Cancer

Anal cancer is a rare form of cancer that affects the tissues of the anus, which is also the end of the digestive tract. The American Cancer Society estimates that thousands of cases of anal cancer are diagnosed annually worldwide. However, the numbers have kept rising steadily over the past few decades. Although anal cancer is relatively uncommon compared to other types of cancer, it’s a critical public health issue. 

There are different types of anal cancer, but the most common is squamous cell carcinoma, which originates in the lining of the anal canal. The most prevalent symptoms of anal cancer may include: 

  • Rectal bleeding
  • Pain, itching, and 
  • Changes in bowel habits

However, many cases are asymptomatic until the tumor progresses, emphasizing the importance of awareness and screening.

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Types of Anal Cancer

Anal cancer is classified depending on the cells it originates from, and it can be: Malignant (cancerous), Benign (non-cancerous), or Precancerous. 

  • Malignant cancers (Cancerous), also known as epidermoid cancers, start from the flat cell lining of the anus, making a total of 90% of all anal cancers. Squamous cancer cell cancers can be different, but they’re all treated the same depending on where they start in the anal margin. Treatment can also depend on its placement in the anus – cancers that originate in the anal canal will have different treatment from those in the anal margin.     
  • Adenocarcinoma is a rare cancer that starts from the glandular cells that produce mucus in the anal canal. Its treatment is the same as rectal cancer.
  • Melanoma is a rare type of skin that starts at the skin cells known as melanocytes and is treated as other melanomas.
  • Basal cell carcinoma is a type of cancer that starts in the perianal skin of the anus (skin around the anus).
  • Gastrointestinal stromal tumor (GIST) is a cancer that starts in the anal tissue sarcoma in the anus.
  • Kaposi sarcoma is a rare tumor that can grow in the membrane lining of the anal canal.
  • Neuroendocrine cancer is a type of cancer that develops near the rectum in the anal canal.

Benign cancers are growths that aren’t cancerous, like anal warts, skin tags, and warts. A precancerous condition is a growth that can develop into cancer and is caused by abnormal cell growth. 

The Role of Human Papillomavirus (HPV) in Developing Anal Cancer

HPV is a group of over 200 related viruses transmitted through sex, and it can affect the throat, skin, and genital area. It’s a significant risk factor for anal cancer and is initially transmitted as a sexually transmitted Infection (STI). There are two types of HPV:

  • Lower-risk HPV is the virus that’s responsible for genital warts and rarely causes cancer.
  • High-risk HPV causes different kinds of cancer, including:
    • Anal
    • Cervical
    • Vaginal
    • Penile
    • Oropharyngeal cancers

HPV is asymptomatic, but when it occurs, you experience the following:

  • Genital warts are small bumps, clusters of bumps, or protrusions that appear like stems. Warts can have cauliflower or flat shapes in different colors: pink, white, colored skin, purplish-brown, or red. Lower-risk HPV can go away on its own without treatment, and those responsible for cancer can be prevented with vaccines.

Although condoms can help prevent the spread of HPV, they aren’t 100% effective. As the most popular STI globally, several strains are high-risk. HPV-16 and HPV-18 are the primary culprits behind the majority of HPV-associated cancers.

Anal sex can increase the transmission of HPV due to direct contact with the mucous membranes of the anus. The anal canal tissues are delicate, making them susceptible to microtears and abrasions during intercourse. 

Hence, it creates a pathway for the virus to enter and potentially establish a chronic infection. Persistent infection with high-risk HPV strains can cause precancerous changes in the cells lining the anus, leading to the development of anal intraepithelial neoplasia (AIN), a precursor to cancer.

Factors that Influence Cancer Risk in Anal Sex

We intend to explore various cancer risk factors associated with anal sex, such as: 

  • Multiple sexual partners
  • History of certain sexually transmitted infections and 
  • Immunocompromised state (low immune system) 

Understanding these risks can help you find preventive strategies like: 

  • Vaccination against HPV 
  • Safer sexual practices like using protection and proper cleaning of sex toys

You don’t have to be practicing anal sex to need this knowledge, but adequate knowledge can foster healthy discussions on the subjects. Moreover, staying informed can lead to effective prevention, treatment, and stigma reduction, ultimately contributing to better health outcomes for everyone. 

More Factors that Increase the Risk of Anal Cancer in Anal Sex

While HPV infection is a primary driver of anal cancer, several other factors may amplify the risk for individuals who engage in anal sex:

  • Weak Immune System – individuals with compromised immune systems, such as those living with HIV/AIDS or those on immunosuppressive medications, are at an elevated risk for developing anal cancer. An impaired immune system is less capable of clearing HPV infections, increasing the likelihood of chronic disease and cellular changes.
  • Sexual Behavior – Multiple sexual partners and unprotected anal sex can increase exposure to HPV and other sexually transmitted infections. Condom use can reduce, though not eliminate, the risk of HPV transmission. 
  • Smoking – Research has shown that smoking may increase the risk of anal cancer by affecting the body’s immune response to HPV and promoting the development of malignant cells.
  •  Age and Gender: Anal cancer is more common in individuals over the age of 50. Studies have also indicated a higher prevalence in women, though men who have sex with men (MSM) have a particularly elevated risk.

Debunking Myths and Misconceptions of Anal Sex

Despite scientific evidence linking HPV to anal cancer, there are myths and misconceptions surrounding it. Anal sex itself isn’t inherently cancer-causing. Instead, it’s the transmission and persistence of high-risk HPV strains that elevate cancer risk. 

Engaging in anal sex doesn’t guarantee the development of cancer, nor does abstinence eliminate the possibility. Thus, if you enjoy getting those backshots, you don’t have to worry or limit yourself from having fun for fear of getting cancer. All you have to do is keep safe and engage in healthy practices during anal sex. 

Factors that Help Reduce Cancer Risk

Cancer is a scary disease that doesn’t respect anyone or situation. Thus, all you can do is try to do whatever it takes to prevent and reduce the risk of catching it. Here are several ways to keep you safe whether enjoying anal sex or not: 

  • HPV Vaccination – The HPV vaccine, such as Gardasil 9, is highly effective in preventing infection with the most common high-risk HPV strains. Vaccination is recommended for preteens and young adults, but it’s also approved for individuals up to age 45 years. The vaccine significantly reduces the risk of developing HPV-related cancers, including anal cancer.
  •  Condom Use – While condoms don’t provide 100% protection against HPV, consistent use can reduce the likelihood of transmission. Safe sex practices, including the use of dental dams, can further mitigate risk during sexual activities.
  • Regular Screening – Individuals at higher risk, such as Men who have Sex with Men (MSM), HIV-positive individuals, and those with a history of anal warts, may benefit from regular anal Pap smears. This screening test detects abnormal cells that may indicate precancerous changes, enabling early intervention.
  • Smoking Cessation – Quitting smoking can bolster the immune system’s ability to combat HPV and reduce cancer risk. 
  • HIV Management: Effective antiretroviral therapy for individuals living with HIV can reduce the risk of anal cancer by strengthening the immune system’s ability to fight HPV infections. 
  • Research and Treatment Advances – Medical research is improving our understanding of the connection between anal sex, HPV, and cancer. The studies aim to develop targeted therapies for anal cancer and investigate new preventive measures, such as enhanced vaccines. Immunotherapy treatment provides hope for individuals diagnosed with anal cancer, although early detection remains crucial. 
  • Social and Cultural Considerations – Social and cultural taboos often shape discussions surrounding anal sex and its potential risks. The stigma associated with sexual behavior can discourage individuals from seeking medical advice or discussing symptoms with their healthcare providers. Deference can be addressed by creating inclusive, nonjudgmental healthcare environments prioritizing patient education and preventive care. 

In Summary

Sex is a natural and unbeatable way to get maximum pleasure through orgasms, regardless of how they come about. So, whichever way you achieve that, prioritize safety for all parties involved. Safe sex is about using condoms if you’re engaged with multiple sex partners and changing them when transitioning from vaginal to anal penetration. 

Regular health screenings are also essential, acting as a proactive measure to detect any early signs of anal cancer. Together, these steps form a comprehensive approach to minimizing the risk of both HPV infection and associated health complications.

Although anal sex doesn’t mean you’ll get infected with anal cancer, it’s a high-risk motivator for the transmission of human papillomavirus (HPV) strain. The connection between anal sex and HPV emphasizes the need for comprehensive awareness regarding safe sexual practices and effective preventive strategies at all times. 

Moreover, you should advocate for HPV vaccination, as it can decrease the chances of contracting the various strains responsible for causing cancer. The vaccination is a protective barrier against infections that may lead to serious health issues related to STIs. 

Encouraging open and honest discussions on subjects not so much spoken about, like anal sex, can help address common misconceptions. Further, society can develop a more informed and proactive approach to sexual practices and wellness. Ultimately, empowering individuals with knowledge about prevention strategies is the most effective way to reduce the risk of cancer linked to HPV and anal sex.

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15 Signs You Are an Excellent Sex Partner

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Anytime you do something, you like to know how you performed; if it was good, you’re happy, and if not, you want to find ways to improve. However, the situation is different when it comes to SEX. People are shy or embarrassed to discuss sex matters, let alone ask a partner for feedback. So, how do you know if you’re an excellent sex partner? Because your partner mourns loudly or they want you around them more?

Handling issues related to sex might be impossible for many because human beings fear rejection or feeling inadequate. Hence, instead of rocking the boat, many people opt to sweep sexual matters under the carpet to avoid being put down. 

But is silence the best way to deal with sexual issues? Although it may be difficult to talk about sex, allow yourself to be VULNERABLE before your partner. As a result, discussing all matters, including sex, will be possible, and there will be room for improvement because you know what your partner needs and expects from you. 

Signs You are an Excellent Sex Partner

Sex is different for everyone. Some need fast strokes, while others need slow and gentle strokes. 

Which one are you? 

Do you know what your partner’s needs? 

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Would you be confident enough to tell your partner to slow down or go fast during an intimate moment to pleasure you?

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Sex needs mainly depend on individuals, and as a result, sexual preferences are dynamic and can become complicated. So, how do you know if you’re the right sexual partner? Here are different signs to help you see if you’re doing it right for your partner. 

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  1. An Excellent Sex Partner is an Active Listener Who Never Judge

Being an active listener means you have commitment, empathy, interest, value, and generosity toward your partner. 

Listening to your partner’s sexual responses actively will tell you what they need and not miss out on anything. 

Sex is a lifelong lesson, and you should be OPEN to learning new things anytime and the more you know, the better you become for your partner. 

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When you’re a good listener, your partner will NEVER shy away from bringing up any sexual idea they have in mind. Fear becomes an issue when you’re unsure of your partner’s reaction or judgment, which makes you uncomfortable. 

As a sexual soulmate, being a good listener to your partner’s sexual ideas eagerly will help you do the right thing to give her maximum pleasure. Plus, your sexual partner wants to hear what you have to say about sex even though they don’t yield. When your partner doesn’t yield to your sexual demands or new ideas, DON’T force or blackmail them into accepting.

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  1. Communicate About Sex

Actively listening to your partner is only one of the many pillars of good communication. 

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The ability to properly communicate about sex with your partner can lead to sexual satisfaction. A ground for good communication means you can approach your partner to discuss sexual matters freely and also to respond however you like. 

A great sex life has no room for imposing, right now, or inconsiderate demands. Communication opens room for self-awareness and confidence to face your partner when discussing anything. 

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  1. Open to Explore New Things

Have you ever had a partner who isn’t open to discussing bedroom matters? Nauseating, right? If you’re dealing with this situation now, you know what’s best for you. 

Your experience should matter; talking about your feelings can improve your relationship.

Settling for a routine in your sex life means boredom, and you should NEVER let that happen. 

You can have a few signature moves to fall back on, but it’s necessary to have exciting sex time and again. Being able to mix things up, do it in different places without fear, and discuss the sex afterward can spice things up. When your sex experience is fantastic, you’ll be looking forward to next time. 

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The same old can quickly become routine, so listening to your partner’s new ideas is good. Having an open mind to explore new styles, sex toys, new places, or nasty talks can make your sex life feel new. While in the space of exploring new things, don’t forget to express your desires and share fantasies without shaming or guilt-tripping them. 

  1. You Want Sex at the Same Time

Is it strange to want sex at the same time as your partner? NO. If you’re craving pleasure with your partner, then congratulations. Your intimacy stars are aligned.

However, some people will want it more than others, which can be problematic, especially for partners who are the opposite. For instance, women have different days in their cycles, meaning they’ll sometimes demand it, but much motivation is required in others. 

However, a sexual soulmate is on when you are, no matter what day of the month it is or place. It doesn’t mean both partners will be on the exact frequency simultaneously, but both are usually ready for a fix anytime, any day. 

  1. Don’t Limit Yourself, Move Around

Don’t limit yourself to the bedroom only, but be free to move around and have sexual fun elsewhere. If you haven’t tried having sex away from the four walls of your bedroom, then you’re missing out big time. To be that person, your partner must be creative and imaginative in sex matters. 

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Changing the place of sexual activity brings the same pleasure as trying a new style. People are different, but keeping the lights off or on might not matter to many. With lights on, you can concentrate on what you’re doing to your partner and their responses, then focus on doing more of what brings pleasure to them. However, you can try anything, lights on or off, as long as you’re giving your partner maximum pleasure. 

  1. You Are Yourself Around Them

Do you feel free-spirited when with your partner? It’s the perfect feeling when you can say or do anything in front of your partner, whether you’re a wildcat or not. Neither of you is acting or pretending to be around the other when giving in to the other’s sexual preferences. 

When with your partner, there are no women with headaches or men with turning noses in the bedroom. In other words, you’re all wholly yourselves, giving each other the best. The thought of it is steamy, and this is what you need to feel whenever you’re with your sexual soulmate. 

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  1. You Enjoy Having Sex

If you aren’t having fun, do you think the other party is? No, because sex is a two-way street unless you’re having sex with yourself. During intimacy, pleasing your partner is a primary goal; you can assess your actions by being responsive. While pleasing your partner is essential, having a great time tends to please a partner.

So, if you’re feeling orgasmic, don’t hold it, as it is reassuring for your partner to know they’re doing something right. When both partners are sexually aroused and responsive, you can be sure the ride will be filled with pleasure, and a lot of juices will flow. 

  1. You Cuddle After Sex

I’m sure you’ve encountered a partner who only wants to roll over to the end. Couples who enjoy sex to satisfy cuddles, share favorite intimate moments, and caress after sex. 

Specifically, women feel appreciated and more sexually satisfied when their partners show affection after sex. Therefore, if you’re spending time in each other’s arms after sex, you are a satisfied couple. Cuddling releases the bonding hormone oxytocin (love hormone), which is well-established following an orgasm.

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  1. Respect for Boundaries and Consent

Are there boundaries in sex? YES, there are sexual boundaries that you must respect as part of creating a safe space for you and your partner.  Respecting your partner’s NO and YES co-creates a safe space to have fun and explore different things together. 

You don’t take it personally when your partner says no to something; you respect their stand. You should also be open and supportive of your partner without imposing anything on them. Enthusiastic consent is more important than forcing issues that your partner doesn’t approve of, which is dangerous and can lead to a broken relationship. 

  1. Sex Toys Don’t Intimidate You

https://healthyblissliving.com/2024/09/27/how-to-identify-body-safe-sex-toys/Do you have an intimate partner who makes you feel like the world is about you? They they do so by themselves or with assistance from sex toys? Anyway, whichever way your partner makes you find pleasure isn’t important as long as they get you to cloud nine always. The only issue to factor when purchasing pleasure toys is to ensure they’re body-safe. How do you determine body-safe sex toys?

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When you’re in such a relationship, neither of you is threatened by meeting attractive people because you’re confident and trust each other. 

Besides attractive people, you also welcome sexual aids like toys to spice up your relationship without feeling like they’re replacing you. Insecurity has no room in your relationship, not from your partner’s exes, nor does his sexual history bother you. If this is where you are in your relationship, treasure it. 

When you’re secure in a relationship, you don’t pressure each other to keep off people of the opposite sex because you know your place. 

WOW. That’s a great relationship to be in. 

  1. The Definition of Good Sex is Common 

While it’s okay for sexual partners to want different things in bed, there should be some core desires that are common between them. Like they say, it takes two to tango, and it’s no different with sexual enjoyment.

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Never go into sex with a mentality like “whatever they want.” That’s what we call settling for less. Don’t you have something you want for yourself? Such an attitude is terrible for you, your partner, and the entire relationship. You should agree with your partner on the kind of sex to have, when, how often, and the time. If these factors align, then you’re sexually compatible.

  1. You Adapt and Adjust with Ease

Partners who love and understand each other intimately discover more about each other’s sexual needs as days go by. As a result of learning more about your partner’s sexual desires, needs, and wants, sex gets better. 

Learning your partner’s desires isn’t about projecting your past sexual experiences to your current partner. If you want to learn more about your partner, treat them individually, ask queries where necessary, explore new ideas, and focus on each other’s preferences. 

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  1. No Imitating Others

When you have a sexual soulmate, there’s no need to mimic pornstars or other fantasies unless both of you agree on the matter. Don’t just pull up a surprise during role play and expect your partner to go along with it. NO. Surprises during intimate moments might turn against you and leave you feeling foolish and rejected. 

No one wants embarrassment during these moments, right? So, you can avoid such bad moments by being open to your partner and discussing any new additions to your bedroom affairs. As a result, both of you only indulge in what you agree on without feeling insecure or intimidated by characters outside your relationship. 

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  1. Sex Gets Better with Time

The convergence of a sexual dynamo only makes things better and better in the bedroom. Sexual energy might fade in some people with age, but with your soulmate, it only builds by the day. It’s not to say that the road will be smooth all the way, but even in the valleys, as with all matters in life, sex will only get better over time.

  1. You’ve Been Told So, and You Don’t Brag About it.

Mmmmmmh! I said it. Your past sexual partners might have told you, “you’re phenomenal in bed”. Is it a compliment? What do you do with this information? Walk around shoulders high, letting everyone know you have machismo? NO. It’s a sexual rule of thumb that people who brag about how good they are in bed are overcompensating. 

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You might end up disappointed or frustrated after a single encounter with such characters. If you’re outstanding in bed, there’s no need to brag because your partner will praise and validate you at any chance they get. Conversely, when they tell you you’re good in bed, not bragging about it is a sign that you know you’re satisfying your partner. 

FAQs

What makes a good sex partner?

A good sex partner can pick up on what their sexual partner likes or wants and the ability to communicate freely. You can ask your partner what they like and what stuff they expect you to do the same, and they’ll respond without feeling shy or fearing being judged. 

How do I know if my partner is right for me?

You’ll know if your partner is good for you by how they treat you on different occasions, like when you’re sad, crying, or going through emotional turmoil. Are they attentive to your feelings? Do they provide a shoulder to lean on when you need it? Are they compassionate? Do they create time or stop what they’re doing to listen to you? If the answer to these questions is YES, you’re rolling with the right partner. 

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How can I tell if my partner is sexually compatible with me?

You can tell if your partner is sexually compatible with you if both of you feel sexually satisfied and happy even when your preferences differ. Sexual compatibility is evident when both partners can talk about sexual needs without holding back and respecting boundaries. 

What can I consider a red flag in my relationship?

There are behaviors you should consider red flags in a relationship, like lies, manipulation, or silent treatment. Although these traits may sound expected, it’s important to note these vices’ repetitive behavior patterns. However, sometimes you may be too blind when it’s the person you’re in a relationship with. 

How can I tell if I’m sexually connected to someone?

You can tell your sexual connection to someone when you have stomach butterflies whenever you see them, an increase in your heart rate, and dilated pupils. Don’t be surprised when you’re unable to express yourself before your partner for a moment and sweating. These are some physical responses to sexual chemistry with someone.

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In Summary

When you meet a partner and all stars align to one then, resulting in delightful orgasms, your life will be full of joy and happiness, not to mention glowing skin. So, we don’t mean to pry but if you can see yourself in more than the three of the 15 signs you are an excellent sex partner above, CONGRATS.

When good sex lights you or your partner up from the inside out, you are in bed with your sex soulmate. If you’ve been around for a moment, you know finding good sex ain’t easy, and when you do, it’s like hitting the jackpot. 

Although you might not notice it, some of your traits translate to how you perform in bed. Perhaps looking at yourself and your partner can tell you more about your sexual prowess.

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